You were sure it was from God….to plan that event. You remember how He dropped the idea in your spirit. It was almost like Paul on the road to Damascus. It was so clear. You could see the event in your mind. You envisioned its success. The weather? Perfect. The food? More perfect. The people…oh, the hundreds, no, thousands of people attending that event. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect. Surely if God gave you the idea He would make sure everything turned out just right? Right? But the Big Day comes and it falls well below your expectations. The thousands of people in your dreams turn out to be more like 100 (most of which were your family and friends). The weather was awful. The food even worse. What went wrong, you ask? Could you have been so wrong in what you thought you heard God say? More importantly, how could God let you down?
In this time of trying to search answers to what went wrong you may also find yourself discouraged, depressed and unsure about a lot of things. Often this uncertainty can cause us to look for a natural reason rather than a spiritual revelation.
As a special event planner for over 30 years, I have experienced really successful events and really bad ones too. Here are a few ways I have used to regroup after my perfect event turns out to be anything but:
- Keep your spirits up. The enemy’s goal is to weigh you down with questioning God with all the whys: Why didn’t You help me? Why did You let it rain? Why did You let the speaker get sick? And the food spoil? Why didn’t You put it in the hearts of people to come to the event? God knew from the beginning exactly who would be there. What the weather would be like and that the food would spoil. But I remember Job asking, should we receive only good from God and not bad?
- Pray. Prayer is essential in reconnecting to God after a failed event. We may think we do not want to discuss our anger and disappointment with God, but He knows how you feel anyway! When you are emotionally ready to hear from God, ask Him what you could have done different. I’ve learned that God is constantly trying to talk to us and with us. But sometimes we just don’t hear. Don’t allow your spirit to become bitter.
- Praise. Just as our scripture says, “…for I shall yet praise him for the help of his countenance.” Situations change with praise. Even my very worse, absolutely, most awful event demands a praise to God. David began this scripture with questioning why his spirit was low. Disquieted means worried or anxious. A bad event can do just that, cause much concern and unrest. But I thank God for the latter part of the scripture…David teaches us to praise God for every situation. Our hope is in God. He is our present help. When I don’t understand. He does. When it doesn’t make sense. He knows.
Rethink your disappointing event as an opportunity to praise God. I’ve experienced the depth of God’s comfort when I have been most extremely disappointed. Learn how to breathe in His peace. Sit in His presence. Feel His hope. Trust His actions. No. God has not left you. This event experience will pass. You will get over this. You will have another chance to do better next time….and another time to praise Him.